What Can a Computer Simulation Tell Us About Hypergamy?

In Preliminary Steps Toward a Universal Dynamics of Intersexual Selection, I outline in much detail a very “basic” model of Hypergamy. The model is basic insofar as it results in a simulation that is designed to capture the most salient quality of Hypergamy—inequality in rank-order preferences between men and women on the dating market—with as few explicit assumptions as possible. Note that I do not feel compelled to model actual sexual relationships at this stage, or to allow my agents to grow old, reproduce, and die. I just want to know how they would rank each other in an ideal world.

What is important now is that the expected outcome of the simulation is not sensitive to my initial simplifying assumptions. It turns out that by adding additional details, we do not add much more in terms of explanatory power, in that not much more of the variation in expected output is captured by the model. I do not discount the possibility that future extensions to the model may serve useful when asking more nuanced questions, but I will ignore these for now.

To quickly review, I set up the model as follows:

  1. Define two types of agents, male and female
  2. Imbue each with a dominant strategy: select min(age) and max(status), for men and women, respectively.
    1. Age is distributed randomly.
    2. Status is distributed randomly at first, but over time depends on competition for limited resources (each patch grows wealth up to a maximum of 10 per patch and each agent, both men and women, consume 1 wealth per step per non-black patch).
  3. Allow for a scalar to improve the extent to which both male and female agents can “search” for prospective partners, which is to say that higher values of S increases the number of patches that men and women can examine in order to select the best available candidate on each tick.

In this post, I would like to simply catalog various qualitative differences in the simulation output by holding certain inputs constant. For example, what happens if I set the ratio of men to women in the total population equal, as opposed to varying it in one direction or the other? What happens when Technology, S, = 1 as opposed to 30 (double the average distance to the center of the simulated world)? What happens when the total population is varied and the agent space (world size) is held constant?

To follow along, I highly recommend you download NetLogo, and then run my original Java simulation. The web simulation is easy to access but it is not designed for performance in mind. The graphs are also more readable in the NetLogo application itself.

I run each of the following simulations for at least 1000 ticks (100 ticks on slower runs) to ensure statistical significance.

Varying f/m Population Ratio

S = 1, female-male-ratio = 1, num-turtles = 250


Visualization. The final computed output of the simulation at ~1000 ticks. As a rule, I will keep the length of each simulation consistent for each visualization and numerical plot going forward.


In-Degree Distribution. Statistically, men and women have the same number of neighbors on the network in the aggregate. This means that they prefer each other equally as much. Female and male Alphas, for example—those on the far right side of the graph—each seem to have the same number of incoming links. This is the same for “Betas”, on the far left side, or just about any other group. Simulations in which the blue and pink distributions diverge would denote a preference inequality.


Preference In-Degree. The same as above, except plotted in a way that shows the rate of change of links between nodes on the network over time. The simulation plateaus at about 8.0 incoming links per agent, both men and women. The “Hypergamy Ratio” is simply defined as the ratio of incoming links for women compared to the same for men (scaled by 10 for visibility). 11.2 on this graph is actually 1.12, which means not many more women prefer any particular man more than any other on average. A level of H higher than this baseline would denote a higher inequality in the direction of female agents. 1.0 is parity. Keep this in mind.



The above seems to be our Baseline World. No individual man or woman possesses a distinct advantage over the other in terms of satisfying either of their Masculine- or Feminine-Primary Imperatives, to borrow the now famous term from Rollo Tomassi. Despite this, however, the Hypergamy Ratio, which tracks the number of incoming female-to-male over male-to-female directional links on the network is consistently, albeit only slightly, above 1.0, at 1.15 on average. This is interesting to note, because even though nothing in the model explicitly favors a feminine imperative, women still exert some pressure as the genetic gatekeepers of society. This is surprisingly realistic.

To reiterate, I make no normative claim here, or at least try my very best not to. In the future, judgments such as “We should encourage more preference inequality so as to spur a growth over laziness mindset” might be warranted. But not now. We have taken too much of the “Green Pill” for one sitting.

This Baseline World, in the end, is best interpreted as something similar in kind to the Perfect Competition model of Economics 101. It is a theoretical sexual landscape structure, from which statistically significant deviations must be rigorously explained. In my personal opinion, this is what I believe the world looked like during the Paleolithic, a world of hunter-gatherers in which female sexual selection preferences were sensitive to significant differences in predictors of relative social status, but not so sensitive that any one member of that tribe was capable of monopolizing the vast majority of all sexual interest. This, in contrast to today’s world, in connection with Tinder and the relaxation of social norms with respect to public displays of sexuality, is what we tend to see in the simulations below.


S = 1, female-male-ratio = 10, num-turtles = 250


Hypergamy is visually more obvious here, with larger male compared to female nodes (size of the node denotes number of incoming links); female nodes are larger than their baseline equivalent, as well.


Why do the vast majority of female nodes have less than 2 incoming connections?


In general, women and men value each other equally, but possess far fewer incoming links on average. This is likely driven by the unusual number of less-connected women. H = 1.4.



At least compared to baseline, a high population ratio of women to men tends to increase the level of Hypergamy in the simulated world. Odd, however, is that there is little divergence in preferences. Despite men and women preferring each other equally, men have more incoming links than women. There is also a far greater number of less-connected women. The men in this simulation have more than their fair share of love interests, but this is largely due to the law of large numbers, not to a reduction in Hypergamy. This, at least is expected from a high f/m ratio where not enough time has elapsed to link all members of the population. Though there may be other forces at play…


Varying Technology, S x f/m Population Ratio

S = 30, female-male-ratio = 1, num-turtles = 250




This one speaks for itself. Allowing both men and women to maximally navigate the world, by increasing our parameter for technology, S, to 30 (twice the average distance to the center of the world for any one particular agent), unilaterally benefits the female agents. There are almost twice as many male agents with zero incoming connections.


S = 30, female-male-ratio = 10, num-turtles = 250



As expected, increasing the population of women to men also increases the overall level of Hypergamy, from 2.0 for an equal population sex ratio to an astonishing 20.0 when women outnumber men 10 to 1. Obviously, there are few planets in our Galaxy where this can possibly ever be the case, but it stands to reason that a doubling of the population sex ratio should increase the level of potential Hypergamy because women would still rather compete for status than settle for what are to them less qualified Beta males. Given that this scaling law applies to the population at large, we can probably safely assume that for the subset of the population that is single, where women outnumber men 2 to 1 Hypergamy will be 50% higher. At maximum technology, S = 30, the entire world is accessible for both female and male agents, and again, women benefit unilaterally.



So far I have not actually made an attempt at a normative claim with respect to which of the various worlds I, as a male agent would prefer, or rather, We, as society in general should prefer. At this stage of the game I simply endeavor to show that what I’m doing kind of makes sense. Technically, my goal was demonstrate how variations in a few of the major model parameters, such as the population sex ratio, or the accessible search space for potential mates, results in different, albeit consistent simulation outcomes for each run. Unfortunately, there are far too many scenarios to review, and I have yet to actually validate any of this against real-world data. Given that the model does what we expect it to, at least qualitatively in terms of what we would expect to see in the real world (with a Power Law degree-distribution in Open Hypergamous societies, and a Bell Curve or Standard Normal degree-distribution for Monogamous societies), I am for now quite satisfied with the results.

In future models, it would be interesting to examine the following:

  • Investment, savings and consumption constraints
  • Reproduction and death rates
  • War between agents/intra-agent competition, or conflict between members of the same sex
  • Signalling (via pre-selection or sexual dress) and other information asymmetry games

Any questions or comments? Do you see a flaw in any of my conclusions, or with the model itself? Am I totally wasting my time? Either way, feel free to discuss in the comments section below. Cheers.

5 thoughts on “What Can a Computer Simulation Tell Us About Hypergamy?

  1. Which computed simulation outputs maps to which types of societies? Seems as though by tuning the dials on search efficiency and population-ratios that we can move our simulated world from one of Competitive Monogamy to Open Hypergamy and everything in-between.

  2. Just wanted to let you know that this is a very interesting article and I look forward to reading more.

    I’m always on the lookout for approaching life in a smarter way. I assume you’ve read Nicholas Nassim Taleb’s books? He has a similar approach to you.

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